WOMANS PLACE IN THE FAMILY
Marriage and the formation of a family is a
necessity and need, in the shadow of which,
humans can grow and excellence. Undoubtedly,
the relationship between family members is
important and at the community level. Today we
see that Western scholars feel threatened by the
collapse of the family unit and the growing
trend of single-parent families and seek to find
the right solutions to reduce the consequences of
this problem.
According to research by Adam Borsova, a
social scientist and research scholar in Illinois,
states that todays marriageable families do not
have a strong source for shaping children and
cannot shape the childs moral conscience.
These families are in danger of collapse and
collapse. Today, 32% of the illiterate children
are born, while in 1970 this number was 11%.
So the situation is very worrying. (Borsova,
Adam, "The Ethical Death of the Americas" p.
11)
The Islamic religion attaches great importance
to the family. Women and men each have a key
role to play in the social, religious, and
educational system of the family. The role of the
Muslim woman in the family, family planning
and responsible oversight is at the heart of the
family. Ali (P.B.U.H) refers to this role and
states: "The woman is the supervisor and is
responsible for the home and his wifes
affairs.”(Contributions, Abbasali, Quarterly
Journal of Womens Books No. 11)
With proper supervision of his family, he can
create an atmosphere of harmony and
understanding and provide the basis for a
healthy, lively and successful life. From the
perspective of Ali (P.B.U.H), women in the
family have a critical responsibility. Housework,
childcare and education, needs much effort and
effort. Basically, maternal mission is the most
beautiful and sacred task of women, and no one
can do this role alone, except for sacrificial
mothers. In this regard, when the prominent
messenger of Islam (PBUH) divides the
responsibilities of the house between Ali
(P.B.U.H) and his wife Fatima (P.B.U.H), he
assigns to each and every one appropriate to the
characteristics of men and women. He
encourages Ali to work outside the home and /
or Fatima to address home affairs and raise
children. Fatima (Daughter of Prophet
Mohammad) (P.B.U.H) is pleased with this
type of division of labor, which is in harmony
with the personality and characteristics of the
woman, and thanks God.
One of the important roles of women in the
center of the family is secrecy and honesty with
the wife. Honesty and Truth is the most
important factor in the consolidation of the
family, which leads to mutual trust and creates
affectionate behavior between the husband and
wife. Obviously, the husband and wife are of
two different families, usually different in
culture and their habits.
Making a difference between the two
individuals requires effort and sacrifice. Of
course, in this regard, women play a more
prominent role in family integration. Perhaps
this is why the elders of religion have
considered the good behavior of women and
their husbands, in other words, to marry as
jihad. That is, the value of tolerance and the
courageous treatment of a woman with her
husband is like a soldier of Islam that has been
fighting in the cause of God.
Ali (P.B.U.H) made every effort to understand
the men of society, to appreciate the worthy
position of women, and to know that the wife
and family members need more than anything
else affection and affection, and they do not
deserve any violence and insolence. The Prophet
said: "A man who takes his wife, pray and no
good deeds from him is accepted by God and is
the first person to enter the fire.”(Weshail,
Abuab Ahmad al-Olaud, Bob 7, No 1)
Ali (P.B.U.H) also says: "Anyone who brings
misery to his people, he does not expect him to
be a good friend of others.”(Ibn Abi Al-Hadeid,
Nahj al-Balaghah, p. 12, p. 163)
In other words, such a person does not have the
necessary qualifications in important social
responsibilities and even in the management of
individual life. Because of the emotional nature
of a woman, a man must be his strong support in
failures and failures, and at the same time, it is
necessary for the man to reach peace and
tranquility in the glory of the woman.
Many family problems relate to issues imposed
by one of the couples on the other. Some family
differences sometimes go back to minor or
minor issues or unreasonable demands of a
woman or husband.
But Ali (P.B.U.H) considers the irrational
demands of a husband and wife to share a
common life, and calls on women and men to
live together, not impose anything against each
other, and the cause of their resentment do not
provide. Imam Ali (P.B.U.H), with his wife
Fatima (P.B.U.H), lived entirely with sincerity
and intimacy for 9 years, and when asked about
his common life, he said: "I will take God in no
case that I would not fret Fatima (P.B.U.H) He
did not impose anything. Fatimah (P.B.U.H)
also did not provoke my anger in any way and
did not rebel in me at all. "(Conti, Abbasali,
quoted in Womens Books Quarterly No. 11)
Since the main goal of the marriage coupling
and the formation of the family is to achieve the
peace of mind and body and the continuity of
the generation, the criteria for choosing a spouse
should be such as to guarantee the creation of a
stable family. Ali (P.B.U.H) in various cases
expressed the criteria for choosing suitable wife.
One of these criteria is both male and female
adolescents. Meanwhile, men and women are
both Shan and their counterparts, they
understand each others language and logic, and
they are close to each other and complete each
other in terms of faith and thought, as Imam Ali
(P.B.U.H) says: The believer is also a faithful
fellow. "(Ibid)
Imam Ali (as) says: "Every male will be chosen
from among women." In choosing a wife, a
woman chooses a man to be his equal. "(Late
Al-Mathem, vfat al-Sadieqah, p. 23) In terms of
Islam, the husband and wife, religion, culture,
personality and ethics, and some physical
characteristics it is possible. In this regard,
appearance features such as age and intelligence
and other personal factors can also be the
criteria for choosing a spouse.
In this way, it is appropriate for women and men
on the brink of marriage to focus on the
characteristics and circumstances of each other
in order to prevent future problems, and choose
a spouse who is close to them in terms of
general attributes. Together with the right
choice, as well as understanding and passing
and patience, you can provide a quiet, healthy
and successful environment for your spouse and
children.
